There’s levels to it

There’s levels to it

Around 3 usually, to get to the heart of what’s underneath our thoughts.

These unconscious patterns run under the surface just out of our awareness.

There is a way to access this, gain understanding and make new choices!

1. Shift your focus from what happened to why is this bothering me so deeply? The work begins when you stop crafting your response and look into why it’s literally driving you crazy.  Ex: You took a step back from helping at your child's school and got a frosty response. Now it’s all you think about, ugh. You go back and forth from wanting to explain why, and give details about how busy you are. 

1. What would that mean about me?? Ex: If they disapprove of you, maybe that means you’re not doing all you “should” be doing, maybe that means YOU’RE not “good enough”. And IF these were true what would that mean?

1. What's really underneath... What if you weren’t doing all you feel you “should” be? What do you fear would happen then? 

When you close your eyes and sit with this feeling, is there a tightness anywhere in your body, what insight is there in this feedback?

 Seeking safety, approval, security, worthiness and avoiding fear, these are often at the root of these thoughts, feelings and reactions. 

Practice compassionate awareness when an external event is distressing to you.

Ask yourself why is this bothering me so much, what’s underneath this? Is there a memory connected to this? Where do you feel this in your body when you close your eyes?

Question your thoughts; What do you fear would happen if this were true? 

Recognize what it is that you really desire for yourself:  safety, security, approval, worthiness and dispel fear. 

Choose new ways to bring these into your life, for yourself so that you feel empowered: Speak with transparency and kindness, set small goals for yourself & celebrate! Set boundaries based on your needs, not fears, Learn something new that you’re excited about. Practice body/thought awareness as you grow!!